woman sitting on a couch next to spouse after telling him she wants a divorce
May 5, 2023 | By Wiley Lavender Maknoor | Read Time: 2 minutes | Divorce

If you have decided to get a divorce, this can be a difficult conversation to have with your spouse. However, the more prepared you are, the better the conversation is likely to go. In New Jersey, even if your spouse does not want a divorce and refuses to accept or respond to the legal documents, the court will make a default judgment. The following tips can help you remain calm as you approach the subject of divorce with your spouse:

  • You should not ambush your spouse. If your spouse has no idea that you are unhappy and that you want to get a divorce, this will likely come as a major shock. You can tell your spouse that you would like to set aside some time so that the two of you can have a serious conversation. You should not tell your spouse you want a divorce while you are in the middle of an argument.
  • Choose an appropriate place. Ideally, you should have this conversation somewhere private and where there will not be any distractions. However, if you are concerned that your spouse may become aggressive or even violent, you should have the conversation in a public place where your safety will not be jeopardized.
  • Plan what you are going to say. Make sure that you are prepared for the conversation and that you are clear about what led you to this decision and why you do not want to be married anymore. You should give your spouse the opportunity to respond.
  • Be prepared for an emotional response. If your spouse is not expecting this conversation and does not want a divorce, you should be prepared for tears, arguments, and questions about why you want to end the marriage.
  • Consider bringing a family member for support. This may be a good idea if you are concerned about your safety or if you think that your spouse will try to convince you to stay. You may need moral support to tell your spouse that you have made up your mind about the divorce.
  • Stand your ground. Your spouse may suggest a trial separation instead of a divorce. If you believe that this is postponing the inevitable, you should stand your ground and tell your spouse that you have made your decision and want to proceed with a divorce.
  • Contact a divorce lawyer. A dedicated lawyer can help you prepare for a divorce, assist you with every step of the process, protect your rights, and address any questions or concerns.

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If you plan to file for divorce and need legal representation, do not hesitate to contact our Metuchen divorce lawyers at Wiley Lavender Maknoor, PC. Our dedicated and experienced legal team can walk you through every step of the divorce process, ensure that your legal and financial rights are protected, and pursue the best possible settlement outcome. To schedule a free consultation, call us today at 732-494-6099 or contact us online. Located in Metuchen, New Jersey, we serve clients in Middlesex County, Monmouth County, Union County, and Somerset County.